Religious marriage is done by choice and not by tradition.
Roberta d’Esposito Event Planner explains why.
Too often couples of future spouses choose religious marriage, mostly out of tradition, and not because they are deeply felt and warned in the depths of their hearts.
Religious marriage in past centuries was, more than anything else, understood as a blessing but over time it has become a real sacrament. It often happens to future spouses to hear you say: “If you are not deeply convinced, don’t get married in church”
This is because marriage in church is a sacred bond, a deeply felt vocation, a pact of union and covenant with God, stipulated before God, in deep communion with body and spirit so that two people become one flesh in the eyes of God . One asks God to be one with one’s husband, one swears fidelity, understanding, love, to welcome the children that God wants to send but also to accept the divine will in case the children do not arrive, one swears assistance in good and for bad , in case of illness and never to part until death.
A sacred, profound, indissoluble oath (therefore very difficult to dissolve except in special cases such as failing the oaths made before God).
The true Christian understands the extent of what he is doing and the responsibilities he is assuming, he understands that a betrayal or failure to one of the marriage ties involves a great and serious sin against God, before which we have sworn allegiance and mutual love.
It is not a contract stipulated in front of a mayor or a municipal delegate, it is not just a formality and a signature on a sheet of paper but an indissoluble pact, an oath before God and therefore respected for its sacredness.
Having said this and without wishing to rhetoric and moralism, I would invite future spouses to reflect in order to make the right choice, according to their beliefs and experiences, and not by tradition or to please relatives or friends.
The church is a sacred and solemn place and solemn promises are made there.
It is the house of God and therefore it must be respected not according to our will … too often we would like to transform the church into a theater, using forcing of all kinds: flock and non-religious songs, too short and low-cut dresses in colors such as red ruby, floral arrangements that literally transform the church into an enchanted forest complete with fluttering butterflies and so on and so forth…
If you want to make the right choice, entrust yourself to a good wedding planner who will be able to best advise you according to your needs and the right ones. If you want a wedding in an enchanted forest or by the sea or in the family villa or on a sailing ship, with a beautiful dress perhaps red or pink, in the model you prefer, it is not impossible … everything is possible achieve trying to understand your dreams and your needs but without creating forcing and respecting the sacred places.
Just as it is possible to create beautiful atmospheres even in the church, in perfect harmony with the place.
If you want to know more, contact me for an appointment and together we will find the best solution for you
